Today, I read another blog’s post which gave me an idea of a post to write about. I had not thought of what the differences were of being able to Stay Home versus Working Outside the Home. In my life, I have done a little bit of both statuses. Is one way harder than the other, or is it just plain hard either way depending on which you have experienced. We all have our struggles, no way is the best way.
I, do believe that it doesn’t matter whether you stay home or work a part-time or full-time job; but the end result is you still have to cook, clean and keep up the house plus attend any activities your kids are involved in. Even if you stay home or work, you still cannot possibly attend every single thing. You will miss something at one point or another.
When my first child was born which was my son, I went back to work at my part-time job that I had at the time. I worked only Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, I believe was my schedule. My Best Friend was my babysitter for my son while I was working and she lived fairly close to where I worked. So, I still had a couple days during the week to be with him plus the weekend. I, then got pregnant with my second child who was a daughter, but I ended having to change jobs before she was born about 5 months before she was born. I did have 1 month off with my son before starting the other job. The other job was a full-time job M-F. I stayed at this job until my son was 6 and my daughter was 3. I,then decided to stay home with them and I did just that until my daughter entered 6th Grade and my son 8th Grade. I started a job at the local school that they attended and I still can be part of their life even at the ages of almost 18 years and 15.
But, here is what I found out as I went back to work after being off with them. I still had to take care of our home the best that I could do including the washing, cooking, cleaning, everything I needed to do with the kids plus much more. The difference I notice is when I was home I was used to doing my cleaning, etc. during the day and by the time they got home I was pretty much done except for dinner. After going to work, I had to do all of that after work in the evening time plus attend their activities at the same time I needed to do housework. One thing I did notice is you do have a little bit more income to do things you were not able to do when you were not working.
The biggest difference I see is as a Stay-At-Home Mom you are more active when the kids are younger than if you were at a job, depending on what kind of job you have. The other difference is if you want to do something, have an appointment, or go to the grocery in the middle of the day, you can do that, but when you are working you only have certain hours you can schedule those type of things.
You have to decide what is best for your family at every season of your life.
Thank You to The Diary of A Frugal Family for the inspiration for my post!